5 Lies We Tell Ourselves


By now you know that I’m super excited to be doing boudoir photography more frequently. It’s awesome to see a woman come to that moment of realization that she really is beautiful. But today, I wanted to share with you some of the 5 lies we tell ourselves to NOT do a boudoir photo shoot, and then I will counter those lies with comments.

1. “I need to lose 10 pounds.” This is so not true. Posing and clothing choices play an important role in how you look on camera. I’ve had a few clients who came in not long after giving birth and they all protested that they still had some baby weight to lose. Well guess what? That baby weight never showed in their photos because they wore outfits that fit well and flattered their figures, and I posed them in such a way as to accentuate their assets. By drawing more attention to the parts of the body that you like, you automatically take attention away from the parts you are not as thrilled with. So losing 10 pounds isn’t really going to make a difference.

2. “I’m too shy and nervous to do it.” That’s okay. This is something you’ve probably never done before and it’s perfectly normal to be nervous. Most clients opt to have professional hair and makeup applied so that first hour here in the studio is usually a great way to ease into your session. And then we’ll take the first few photos with whatever you’d like to wear…it could be a beautiful dress or even a t-shirt and jeans. We don’t have to go straight to lingerie if you are not ready to. I promise that by the end of your session you will feel a lot more at ease and those nerves will have melted away.

3. “I don’t want my photos posted online.” Privacy is very important to me. I understand that the photos may only be for you, or for you and your significant other. And there is no reason why your photos would have to be shared online if you don’t want them to be. If you DO want to share them, I’ll have you sign a release and YOU get to choose which ones to share. If you choose to share none, that’s perfectly acceptable.

4. “I’m not in a relationship so I don’t have anyone to give the photos to.” Do it for YOURSELF. It is really the best gift you can give yourself because it will boost your self-confidence. You will start to see yourself in a different way…..less guarded and more empowered, less critical and more beautiful. Remember, your first relationship is with yourself.  So why not embrace that?! You deserve it.

5. “I’m committed to God and it just feels wrong to flaunt myself in this way.” Now this one may be a touchy subject for some. Here’s the thing, though. I really think that God would be okay with a woman having tasteful photos taken for her to share with her husband. When you are in a loving and committed relationship, I think it’s acceptable.

There’s only one thing standing in your way…YOURSELF. 🙂

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About Kim Hill

I’m passionate about my work and helping women feel comfortable in front of my lens. I want women to feel confident and sexy regardless of age or size. All women are beautiful and I'm here to help them see the beauty in themselves and the boudoir photographic experience is one step in that direction. I am dedicated to bringing a high-quality experience to the boudoir portrait session. My goal is to offer a fun yet relaxing environment where a woman can let down her guard, allowing that inner sparkle to shine. I’ve been a photographer for more than 25 years now. I started as a young child with my parents' 110 film camera, moved on to study photography in college, interned with a wedding photographer for a couple of years and then struck out on my own. I've been doing general portraits since 1998 and boudoir work since 2009. In addition to boudoir, I also offer high school senior portraits, fashion inspired sessions, and business executive head shots.
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2 Responses to 5 Lies We Tell Ourselves

  1. Leslie says:

    I experienced a few of the doubts before my own session, but if you can just pull the trigger and do it with a photographer you trust, it all works out and is amazing.

  2. Vinita says:

    You’ve really addressed some core issues! Really so true! Thanks for sharing!

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